When Christmas Feels Different

It’s hard to believe we’ve already turned the page to December. Thanksgiving has passed, and now Christmas is quickly approaching — another holiday at our heels, another one to get through. For many, this is a season filled with excitement and joy. But for those of us who have lost someone we love; it can also bring a deep ache that seems to grow louder with each twinkling light and familiar carol.

The world around us moves quickly into celebration — trees are trimmed, gifts are wrapped, and music fills the air. Yet in our hearts, there’s a quiet longing for what used to be. We remember the laughter, the traditions, the presence of someone who made the season feel complete. It’s okay to feel both gratitude for the beauty of Christmas and sorrow for the absence of those we miss. Both belong at the table of our hearts.

I’ve found myself looking back at photos of years passed. On one hand, they bring such a smile to my face as I recall the love and happiness. And, just seconds later, a lump forms in my throat as a few tears roll down my cheek. This my friends, is the life of a griever and I’ve come to accept both the happy and the fleeting sad moments. It truly is OK to feel both.

As we move through December, let’s hold space for the true meaning of this season — the birth of Jesus, our Savior and Prince of Peace. His coming reminds us that even in the darkest nights, light still breaks through. The hope that entered the world through His birth is the same hope that sustains us now. Because of Him, we can face the ache with assurance that love is not lost — it’s eternal.

If your heart feels heavy during this season, know that it’s okay to slow down, to rest, to let tears fall when they need to. You are not alone in missing someone deeply. May you find comfort in the gentle presence of God, who understands your pain and promises peace that surpasses all understanding.

Even in the sorrow, His light still shines. And that light — tender and true — is what will carry us through this season once more.