When we are experiencing sorrow due to loss it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. We may question our strength, doubt our purpose, or even feel abandoned by God. But it is precisely in these moments that we are brought face to face with our deepest vulnerabilities.

Grief is a journey that touches every one of us at some point in our lives, whether through personal loss or supporting a grieving friend. In these moments, we want to offer comfort, but sometimes well-meaning words can cause unintended pain.

Even though this journey has been the hardest thing I’ve ever walked through, there comes a time when we can choose joy and remember the love more than the loss. Choosing joy means finding moments of happiness in the midst of sorrow, whether it’s a shared memory, or a comforting word. Remembering the love more than the loss involves focusing on the positive impact Melanie had on my life and the lives of others, rather than the pain of her absence.

Although wounds do become scars, those scars become stories. I truly believe we are meant to share our stories with one another. By doing so, they offer hope to others along the way.  

As the anniversary day approaches, we are flooded with memories and emotions. This day can be incredibly challenging, as it often brings the pain of loss back to the surface.

we may feel emotionally overwhelmed, exhausted, or simply unable to engage in the usual routines of social interaction. Grief can be incredibly draining, and it’s not unusual for us to retreat inward as we process our loss. The isolation of grief can come from a place of self-protection – when we are deep in our sorrow, we may feel vulnerable, fear being a burden, and struggle with the intensity of our emotions.

We read a lot about the many emotions that accompany grief, yet we don’t always talk much about anticipatory grief. Although anticipatory grief is the overwhelming feeling of sadness and loss before a loved one passes away, I have also found we can experience anticipatory grief after our loved one runs ahead to Heaven.

There is no grief like the grief of losing a child. It’s not a journey anyone prepares for, and there are no words that can ever make sense of the depth of your loss. But even in the darkest moments, finding hope during child loss can still find its way into your heart.

Some say that time heals all wounds, but I don’t believe it. What I do believe is when we walk in faith, God continually heals our broken heart. I believe a scar begins to develop over the open wound in our heart and as time goes by the pain may begin to ease.

For many, New Year’s Eve is a time of celebration, reflection, and looking forward to a fresh start. But for those who are grieving through New Year’s, it can be one of the hardest times of the year. The pressure to feel joyful, hopeful, and optimistic can be overwhelming when the weight of loss still hangs heavy. Grief has a way of making time feel distorted. The holidays, which are supposed to be filled with cheer, often serve as stark reminders of who is no longer there. O

You would think that despite the passage of time our emotions accompanying grief would dissipate. I will admit, the intensity of them does lessen. Yet, they are always there, simmering just underneath the surface like the hot, red lava that bubbles up after a volcanic explosion.

Finding solitude during the holiday season is a precious gift we can give ourselves. It allows us to recharge our spirits, gain clarity, and appreciate the beauty of simplicity during the holiday rush. So, as we navigate the joyful whirlwind of the season, let’s remember to embrace the gift of solitude and cherish the quiet moments that nourish our souls.