When someone we love dies, we expect to grieve their absence. What we don’t expect are the many other losses that quietly follow. Grief rarely arrives alone. It has a ripple effect, touching areas of our lives we never anticipated. If you’ve ever thrown a pebble into a pond, you’ve seen how the ripples move outward in widening circles. Loss works much the same way. The first ripple is the loss of the person we love. But the ripples don’t stop there. Sometimes friend

Secondary losses are the additional effects of a primary loss. When we experience grief, these secondary losses can blindside us. We may expect to mourn the death of our loved one, but the way that grief expands—touching every aspect of life—can be unexpected and overwhelming.